Our Engagement

Today is the day. Today is the day that we've been waiting for. The day we've worked hard for and lovingly have decided. Ever since the beginning, our very first day has been with commitment. It was something we've both pledged to one another and have entered this relationship with the promise of. It became even more serious when we decided we could and eventually wanted to be married. Our relationship is now family sanctioned, officially accepted and people are looking forward to the fruition of our relationship. I am not particularly happy about being stalked and expectations being placed upon our shoulders, I, however will take the chance to demonstrate in the old traditional, archaic and awfully patriarchal ways as families like ours expect to. Though, we'd never miss the opportunity of great home made food. So here's to that.  I'll always tell you how much I love, cherish, respect you. You won't go without long durations of time, where you won't be appreciated, thanked and loved. I will always put in the effort, will always be honest about my feelings and will always be the shoulder you need to lean on.

You can always count on me.

Rochester, Again.

Hello Rochester, it's you again. This time, I've brought someone with me. Someone I deeply care about, to tie the first, red knot of commitment in front of my family.

Welcome us, help us and bring us ease, happiness and lots of love. This time, for the first time perhaps, I am excited to be here. Be kind to us and shower us with good fortune.

Our Engagement Shopping

At the last moment, we were able to get our rings, S's dress shoes and a bunch of other items we should have bought weeks ago in preparation for our Engagement Party at my parents' house in Rochester.

I know it's not wise, but I could only take this off before our departure and we stuffed everything into today. I think I've been up since six, confirming train tickets, packing, and managed to even get an eye brow way, a hair cut, bought the items we needed one by one and even got a chance to check out some books together. Somehow we managed to squeeze in a dinner at Oliva's before we rushed back home, finished packing, gathered the paperwork for tomorrow, set our alarm clocks, I gave myself a mani and pedi and a home facial. We're all set to leave for tomorrow. It's past 11:30 and I think the night is calling me to sleep. I am so excited that regardless of the fact I am exhausted that I don't even know if I'll get to sleep.

P.S. and yes, we even got our engagement rings today.

Our Decision is Made

We had a long talk yesterday night. A very long talk. Eventually, we have come to the decision that, we want to get married. The past eight months have been a blessing and a whirlwind. I've never felt exposed, interfered and vulnerable as I have in these past eight months. I also can confidently say that my heart has stretched bigger, grown fonder and has learned to love gently, without abusing, without hurting, crushing and to love kindly, maturely. A confidence has been inserted and the ability to accomplish and do this, to be fierce, to be strong, to be more determined has been implanted. I've been stronger with you then without--needless to say, you've spoiled me much. Some of the things I used to do on my own, now with you, have transferred over to you. Things no one has ever done for me, things only a select few people in my life, such as parents have done for me. But certainly, my list of things to do has never diminished, instead has increased now. Making up for the things I no longer have to do, like taking out the trash, opening a jar of pickles, reaching higher up in the cabinets, unplugging the toilet or the drain. Carrying heavy luggage...the list is infinite and so has my responsibilities.

Interference is bothersome, rude, immature and plain evil, simply. But I don't remember succumbing to such things. So we've made a promise to be together, to love, to respect and to support. Also, to walk over hurdles, unwavering with certainty. So, this too shall pass.

The big news is that, as we've come to this decision, we've decided to get engaged and do the traditional Turkish ceremony during the time we've set aside to visit my parents in Rochester. News will be all around and will shock those living in Rochester--though I doubt that they'll give a rat's ass.

There you go readers, I will be an engaged person come January!